In female alcoholics, liver disease, menstrual disorders, pelvic inflammatory disease, hysterectomies and bleeding disorders often occur.  In men, liver disease, atrophied testicles and feminization may occur.  Testosterone levels may be decreased as well. 

Changes in the brain may begin from the first few drinks.  It is not known when they become fixed or permanent.  Although alcohol stimulates sexual desire at low doses, at intoxicating levels it decreases the ability to get and maintain and erection and to experience orgasm.

When we talk about non-intoxicating doses of alcohol, we are referring to a 0.06 blood alcohol level or below.  The legal limit for alcohol consumption in Florida and most other states is a 0.08 blood alcohol level.  Moderate intoxication may be from 0.10 to 0.15.  A blood level of 0.15 may occur with three mixed drinks in a 150-pound person.

Because female sexual responses are more difficult to measure than men’s, there is less information about women.  But some things about women and alcohol are known:  increased gynecological disease; difficulty in sexual arousal and achievement of orgasm; greater incidence of infertility; miscarriages or other pregnancy complications.

It is interesting to note that women’s perceptions of their sexual experience differed significantly from physiological evidence.

Women who consumed alcohol believed that their sexual functioning was better than when they did not, and they reported experiencing more pleasure.  Physiological evidence, however, contradicted their belief that their sexual functioning was better.  In fact, evidence shows that sexual functioning in women who have consumed alcohol is lower.

Because these changes in males and females are cumulative, they are often not noticed until there is a problem.

The technique is as follows: the man is on top of the woman with his pelvis low on her pelvis.  His legs are between her legs.  He’s propped up on his elbows holding his weight off her chest.

Next, the man slides forward a little so he’s higher up on the woman with the base of his penis in direct contact with her clitoris.  He then lowers his chest, resting on the woman.  They then begin a rhythm upward and downward stroke of approximately 2 inches.  This movement should be neither too slow nor too fast.  Movement is continued constantly in a slow rocking motion.  The steady rocking of the penis in the vagina with the top of the penis stimulating the clitoris leads to orgasm.

Want to read more: 

The Perfect Fit: How to Achieve Mutual Fulfillment and Monogamous Passion Thru the New Intercourse by Eichel and Nobile.

The most common gives no warning and happens within a few seconds of an orgasm.  Pain is stabbing and/or throbbing.  The other type of headache starts as a dull ache on both sides of the head then builds gradually and intensely until orgasm.

Some headaches only last a few minutes and others several hours.

Any type of sexual activity (masturbation, oral sex, etc.) can lead to a sex headache.  The most common cause is the tightening of the head and neck muscles.  It may also be a response to increased blood pressure during sex.

Less common, but worth seeing your medical practitioner is a stroke or bleeding around the brain.

Sex headaches are more likely to show up in men and people who are prone to migraines.

The most common sexual issue right now is low sexual desire.  If you’re a person who goes full force all season, you’ll probably be exhausted and stressed out.  Exhaustion and stress are the two leading causes of low sexual desire and difficulties with performance among men and women.  And if your partner is someone who wants sex as a way to reduce stress, then there will likely be some difficulties. 

Since couples generally know whether their partner wants more or less sex during stress, they can begin to plan more rest and relaxation before the season even starts.  Lowering our expectations of ourselves during that time period can help too.  Instead of trying to visit all the relatives and friends on one particular day, perhaps some might be visited before or after the holidays.  Remember the other people might be feeling stressed with all the visitors coming at once.  Extra help with cleaning, wrapping gifts and so forth may be helpful too.

Marital conflict resulting from the man wanting sex more often than his female partner is common.  (There are women who want sex more often than their husbands do, but this is not as common).  In fact, it is the most frequent complaint brought to sexual therapy and psychotherapy offices by couples around the country.

In the past, couples just lived with their sexual problems because sexual disorders were not understood, no cures were available, and most people were reluctant to bring the subject up for discussion.

But sexual information from research as well as effective treatments for problems has come a long way in recent years.  Unfortunately, much of the information that is easily accessible to the public is no more understandable or reliable than it ever was.

What you read on the internet or in magazine and newspapers is not always accurate.  Even many of the books about sexual problems and solutions are written by people who have little or no credentials in the flied.  Some of the advice they give can be harmful, and is certainly no backed by scientific study.

The reasons for one person wanting sex more often than the other can be due to a number of complicating factors.  To overcome this sexual dilemma, couples much first understands what’s causing their particular problem, and then move on to the correct solution.  If either one of these important parts is missing, the difficulty will not get solved but will worsen over time.

Examples of these circumstances include medical conditions, hormonal changes, medications, psychological factors, lifestyles, sexual addiction, fatigue, inaccurate beliefs, unresolved marital difficulties, and so on.

Mismatched sexual desires can be complicated, resulting in a frustrating situation for couples that can eventually cause marital problems.

This is not an easy process for most people.  Parents often feel awkward when confronted with their children’s sexuality.  As difficult as this is for a person, keep in mind that you have had some time to think about and begin to adjust to this realization.  Your mom, dad, family and friends need to be given time to do likewise.

Parents tend to have more intense reactions than friends.

This news changes everything they have probably believed would happen in your life.  Many parents need to grieve the loss of the idea of their child as a heterosexual.  This is understandable and can be expected.

A lot depends on how old you are and/or what type of relationship you have with your mom and dad.  If you feel your mom may reject you, having support in place before telling her might be a good idea.  You may want to talk with your father or perhaps some of the resources listed below and try to get as much support and information as you can to help prepare you to talk with your mom.  Approaching her in as loving and sensitive a way as possible may help.

Some Tallahassee community support resources are:

The Family Tree

The Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual Student Union at Florida State University

Parents & Friends of Lesbians and Gays

When you’re trying to be intimate with your partner, do you need a lot of time and stimulation to get an erection?

First, assuming that there is no physical problem (according to your doctor), there is a significant psychological component to your erectile problem during foreplay and lovemaking.

There could be several factors contributing to this.  Some questions I would need to have answered are:  Has this occurred in other relationships?  Do you take any prescription medications, use drugs or drink alcohol and to what extent?  Situations that might cause stress, such as past sexual experiences that were unpleasant or unusual, difficulty at work or financial stress, can contribute to your difficulty in sustaining an erection.

If you have not yet formed a long-term, stable relationship with your partner, this can also cause stress.  An advisable place to start would be to address your concerns.  You may be surprised to find that she, too, is nervous or stressed or has some concerns as well.   If you feel this is too touchy a subject and you’re not ready to bring it up, consider slowing things down until you feel more comfortable talking with her or obtaining some professional guidance.

There is no guarantee that, when you get your penis pierced, you won’t have any complications or infections.

The two most common places on the penis to get pierced are both at the tip of the penis.  One type is called a “Prince Albert.”  The jewelry for this piercing, which can be shaped like a miniature horseshoe with a bead on each end or a complete ring with one bead on it, would go through the pierced hole on the underside of the penis at the base of the head, then out through the urethral opening.

Another less common piercing is through the frenulum, which is the skin at the very sensitive area under the penis head.  This piercing does not involve the urethral opening.  The jewelry for the piercing through the frenulum is a short bar with a bead on each end and looks like a miniature barbell.

This type of piercing is called a “Frenum.”  Most people start off with a smaller piece of jewelry because the smaller hole made by the piercing may heal more quickly than a larger hole.  Then the person may decide to gradually use larger jewelry to stretch the opening to his personal preference.

Local tattoo specialists say that if the piercings are done by a trained person in a sterile environment, and if you follow aftercare instructions and keep the area clean and free from infection, the piercings usually heal without complication.

There are some general warnings for people considering any type of body piercing.

Piercings that occur in warm, dark, moist places on the body are more susceptible to infection.  People who are prone to infections, who have blood circulation difficulties or who have diabetes may not be ideal candidates for piercing.  Check with your healthcare professional for an assessment of your individual risks.

Recently Peoria, Illinois parents sued Walmart and the state of Illinois for accusing them of child porn after they took pictures of their 4, 5, and 1 ½ year old in their bathtub and had their pictures developed at Walmart.

Apparently Walmart has an “unsuitable print policy” where they can turn suspicious photos into law enforcement.  Then, of course, law enforcement has to conduct an investigation.  After that, it gets turned over to Child Protection Agency which can then recommend the children be taken away, etc.  In this case the children were taken away initially and then returned.

It’s too bad that any business is even in the position of having to worry about printing something that could be porn, but looking at it from the other side, what if they really had been pictures taken for child porn?

In 2004, a man with dual citizenship in Russia and the US raped 3 girls from a Russian orphanage.  Andrew Mogilyansky thought he could get away with it if he did it in Russia and then returned to the U.S.

We hear daily of countries not cooperating with each other, but in this case Russia and the U.S. teamed together to arrest the child predator.  International borders were not used as away to escape from the punishment of this crime. Finally!

But men going to other countries to do sexual activities they’d be arrested for here, is still a big problem.  Nonetheless this is a step in the right direction.